Self Help Question And Answer
How to help 10 year old girl build self esteem?
Other kids make fun of her and she feels stupid, fat, ugly, etc etc. How do I teach her that self esteem comes from within and it does not matter what anyone says about her? I would like to find a gift for the holidays to do this.... HELP!!! What can I possibly buy her to teach self esteem? THANKS.
Answers
It's not what you buy her - it's what you say and what she DOES. Get her into an activity with adult supervision - a sport with an adult coach, girl scouts, camp fire girls, something like that - they teach self-esteem and lots of related skills, and the accomplishments they offer help to build self-esteem.
Another way to build self-esteem is through learning a skill like photography or jewelry making or carpentry - perhaps a Christmas gift of the tools she needs to pursue one of her interests, like a camera or paintbrushes & easel?
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Firstly, if her confidence is low...maybe shes having problems at school? bullies maybe, maybe not all I know is that I was bullied at her age for being too thin/tall and it knocked my confidence something stupid!! I'm not saying you don't, but keep praising her and making her feel good by complimenting her every now and then (you know, 'thats a nice top your wearing, the colour really suits you hun).
As for what to buy her...take her clothes shopping, all girls/women love it!!!
Hope she feels better about herself! Good luck xxxxx
